As we waited longer for the courts to step in and on our court date, it was rough, waiting to know when we could see SS.
FINALLY, we had our court hearing (it was over the phone with just our lawyers) BM wouldn't agree to ANYTHING! So the judge ordered NO child support! That really made her lawyer mad. BM said the only way AD would see SS was with her and without me....
Well the judge didn't go for it. He order AD UNSUPERVISED visits THREE days a week!
FINALLY we were able to get SS and actually spend time with him!!
A StepMother's Love
Thursday, June 6, 2013
At the Mercy of the Courts
Meeting for the First Time!
I was able to meet my little bonus son before court. BM didn't want me around and demanded SS was NEVER to meet me. But one say AD and I showed up where SS lived. BM was at work. So the people they lived with say outside with us and talked, SS was asleep. SS woke up while we were there and they decided to bring him outside so he could see Daddy and meet me.
He was 9 months old, I had been around since he was 2 months old. The little man was already walking! He was shy, but he would giggle at me. He had this red ball that he would throw around. It was such a great first meeting and visit.
About a week later AD and I showed up again, and again BM was working. So the people that were there with SS got him dressed and we all went to McDonalds for lunch. SS was warming up to me by then. I was able to snap a few pictures this time. He looked just like his Daddy!
That was the time we got to see SS before court.
Friday, May 31, 2013
Waiting waiting waiting...
Between the time of finding BM and SS and getting into court was only a matter of a month. In that time BM allowed AD to see SS on her time with her and only if she felt like it. I, SM, of course was told to stay in the car. BM Refused to meet me. She said "its only temporary " and she wanted nothing to do with the "cheap piece ".
On the days AD was allowed to see SS it was never more than an hour. BM would do nothing but argue and fight, beg him to come back, and say horrible things about me. AD being able to see SS o ly happened twice. One of witch she would not allow AD to hold SS. She told him "no not until you tell me the truth that you love me not her ". Then some family members showed up and BM bursts into tears saying AD was yelling at her and treating her like crap.
One time BM kept changing the time AD could go see SS. Well AD and I were looking at a car to buy BM so she could get around. We called BM and told her we would be late because we were buying her a car. She then replied "no, if you warent here by 2 then don't bother at all". This was the same day she told AD "12 is too early to come I have to get ready for you"...Well ok then, guess she doesn't want a car..
Once BM was served to go to court, she stopped all contact again and refused to talk to AD or for him to see SS. She told the people she was living with that while she was at work AD could not see SS either....Well we showed up once while BM was working, and the people she lived with (AD'S grandparents) brought SS out to us. This happened twice before court.